You Need To Say No

I'm not here to teach you how to say no, I would assume the word itself is not that complicated, and that you're fully capable in pronouncing both letters, one after the other. I'be been reading most probably way too many posts on how to say no, I was actually surprised people are actually giving true lessons on how to say the famous no. 

I won't teach you, you know how to say it, you can say it, and as a matter of fact you can be really annoying saying it over and over again. Remember when you were only 3 years old and you discovered the magic of the no, you kept saying it without someone teaching you how to do it.

What happened meanwhile? Well I think it's more relevant to understand what's holding you back, as in the end it's not about just saying no, but it's about expressing your point of you, or taking attitude, or simply allowing yourself not to care. Somehow you ended up meeting expectations instead of setting them. Does this make you a

The pursuit of happiness ...


It's never happiness, it's always a pursuit. May be a temporary pleasure, a passing feeling of accomplishment, a faint feeling of fulfillment, or anything else, but never happiness. You cannot define it, you cannot chase it, you cannot hold it once you think you reached it, but you want it, or better said you miss it.

Ever since antiquity people tried to define happiness, and moreover, to come up with different approaches on how to reach it. They failed, and people continue to fail as we speak. As Einstein said: You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it. At least I think it was Einstein, and even if it was or not him, most probably the words would not have been exactly those, so let's better focus on the message. 

Positive thinking makes you feel like a lunatic, religion cares more about bed time stories and making money out of it, yoga makes you either sleepy or dizzy,  living closer to the nature feels like not brushing your teeth for an undetermined period of time, giving more and expecting less is what you've been practicing already, and you're indeed left with ... well less

Fear – The Reason TheyTry To Change You


Sometimes you just feel like you’re doing it all wrong, like you’re good at nothing. What you don’t realize is that this is not your own, self-born feeling, this is a feeling you cannot possibly have without the existence of others in your life. Learn from the kids, whatever they do, they never have the feeling they do something wrong until they’re told so. Same with adults, you would never have the feeling of being wrong, without the other constantly telling you what’s right and what’s wrong. You might even mixing their preoccupation with care and love, in the end they might only want to get you on the right path. But who are they, what is the right path, and who gives them the right to tell you what to do?

The answer is simple. We call it fear.  They fear their own broken dreams that you might achieve,